Like whatever you like because haters are going to hate no matter what.

Halloween is coming so I was writing on the darker side of Vampires and those evil Vampires who have no souls etc etc etc, but I’ve had something else on my mind today.

We all have things we like or don’t like. Heaven knows I’ve voiced my biased preferences on this blog. But I’m trying to be kinder and gentler and nicer.

But I’ve been wondering why haters gotta hate. You know the type, they invade online groups, break room conversations, politics, cocktail party conversations. They spew their opinions on what they HATE and why anyone is WRONG for liking it or even putting up with it.

I am starting to tend to stay away from online “writing” forums but I drop in occasionally just for kicks and grins. Most are pretty friendly but one group has a guy who hates all things to do with Vampires and now he hates Zombies too. Of course all of the other writers (it is a Horror group) tell him in nice and intelligent ways to shut the F__K up.  But I wonder why he goes on his tirades. What sort of unhappy bitter person has to hate Vampires so much to expend his time and energy on the subject over and over and over. If you don’t like Vampires don’t go out at night. Or don’t read Vampire books or Vampire blogs or watch Vampire movies and TV shows – duh dude. It isn’t that difficult.

Unfortunately the really scary thing about haters is they tend to be bullies. That is sick and sad and unfortunate. Nobody likes a hater or a bully.

TV is a big item for people to hate because of the abundance of paranormal and fantasy programs.  Most TV is pretty stupid but it is also fun. It is a way to relax.

At my house we just pile on the couch under blankets and watch and talk and rewind and talk and watch and talk about how bad the writing is or how good it is. But it is just for fun.

For example…

I’m from Sacramento, California. I was born here and I still live in the Sacramento area. Stay with me while I tell a silly story and then maybe get to the point of it all. There is a TV show called The Mentalist. It takes place in Sacramento. The main character is a guy who used to be a physic con man named Patrick Jane. He is played by Simon Baker. Simon Baker is just about as handsome as a human can get. And he is Australian which always adds to the attractive part (I don’t know why, it just does,) I really like him in movies and he is in two of my favorite movies (another blog post).

Anyway, on the show they solve crime that the local police can’t solve. I suppose the writers thought that Sacramento would be a mild bland mid-sized city to have a TV show in. What they don’t realize is that Sacramento is like every single paranormal, X-files and Dexter show out there. We have a colorful and violent history to start with (gold rush, Donner party etc.) And we have had more than our share of serial killers in the general area, politicians, not to mention a large population of Vampires. On a good note Sacramento is one of the most ethnically diverse cities in the country. The weather is almost always perfect and people are really really nice here despite any weird stuff. And there are a lot of writers and artists here.

So back to the show…I had to watch it because it takes place in Sacramento.

Plot: A murder happens in Sacramento. They show the Tower Bridge (which is on the edge of Sacramento going over the Sacramento river between Yolo and Sacramento Counties. It was designed by the same guy who designed the Golden Gate Bridge.). Anyway there is a murder. So Patrick Jane and the detectives jump in a car and drive to see a guy who lives by the beach. It takes them about 15 minutes to get there. Wait, we’re about 90 miles from the ocean. But they get to a sunny warm beach that I KNOW is at least a 7 hour drive from here AND in Southern California. Then they hop in the car and drive back to an outdoor coffee shop across from the Capitol in Sacramento, THEN they drive to the desert (the nearest desert is in Nevada and about a 4 hour drive – just east of Reno.) And that is all in one day. Wow, almost like Dr. Who and his traveling phone booth. Or better yet, like the SMOSH Teleporting Fat Guy (look it up.)

And the writing is horrible on this show  and super silly – so much that we laugh. I fell asleep. But Simon Baker is still so good looking that you have to look. Anyway, the point is that I’m not going to be a hater go out and say anyone who watches this show is an idiot and should not be allowed to touch foot in Sacramento County or visit Australia or eat Cheetos (there are Cheetos haters too.) It is just for FUN. FUN FUN FUN. How can you hate FUN if it isn’t hurting anyone. So it is ok. Just like Duck Dynasty (I don’t watch it but feel free if you like.) It is just for FUN. Lighten up haters. You can’t win!!!! Thank goodness.

And how can you hate Sacramento? Oh come on, it is a great place.

So not that I’ve rambled on for way too long…but I can do this because it is Saturday and I’m stuck at home for undisclosed reasons and anyway… I was thinking about the dicks who post stuff online that are so NEGATIVE.

These people are going to hate. I looked it up and came up with some links on science web sites that said “Haters are predisposed as negative people.” That is so sad.

One hater in a fantasy writers group said he hated romance in fantasy stories/movies/tv. He hated romance? Who could hate romance? People love romance? Vampires love romance. Haters hate Vampires – so haters must hate Romance. See, it all makes sense now.

I feel sorry for those negative people who hate things. They hate cats and Vampires and Romance and TV and paranormal stuff and beer and wing back chairs and just about everything. All that time and energy hating could be spent doing something positive, like writing a romance novel, about Vampires and Zombies. Or it could be spent thinking about how to make the world a better place just by being nice.

Yes, this is a Vampire blog. I did mention Vampires a few times. It is also a parenting blog. Really, it is – go look at old posts. I’ve been lucky to only have a few comments from haters, usually people who think they know more about Vampires than I do (really) or they think I’m going to Hell or they don’t like my romantic take on things. But that’s is ok because I just delete their comments! Woo Hoo.

But back to the article…

And we’re really excited that Grimm is starting again really soon. And yes, I like TV. I admit I do. I limit myself to a number of shows because I’m busy doing other things. But TV is great, how many of you saw Otter 501 on Nature. OMG that was toxic cute and if I had been a TV hater I would have never seen that or known of the amazing things that the otter rescue team at the Monterey Bay Aquarium do. They’re wonderful. And if you hate otters there is something SERIOUSLY wrong with you.

The point of this story is:

  • Don’t worry about the haters or let them get under your skin.
  • Tell your kids that.
  • Don’t let your kids be haters.
  • Don’t hang out with haters.
  • Read every banned book you can.

If you don’t like Vampires don’t read my blog. Or read my blog and learn to love Vampires and Zombies and Werewolves and Teenagers and Writers and totally random stuff.

To haters: Take a deep breath and let it all go. Accept that people like things that you don’t. It won’t hurt you is somebody else likes Western or Vampire or Romance novels. It isn’t personal. Just let go. Take a deep breath and change the radio station and learn to laugh and smile and chill.

Have a good weekend everyone!

xoxoxoxo

Juliette aka Vampire Maman

4 thoughts on “Like whatever you like because haters are going to hate no matter what.

  1. Pingback: Like whatever you like because haters are going to hate no matter what. | West Coast Review

  2. Loved your take on The Mentalist. Reminds me of when CBS once had a show set here in Indianapolis, a generic courtroom drama called Close to Home. I watched the pilot, in which the “Indianapolis” part consisted of two (2) three-second helicopter-flyover shots of downtown. Otherwise it could’ve been set in NYC, Vancouver, or Forks, WA, for all I knew. I never bothered with episode two. If you’re not going to use the setting, why even pick it?

    As to your main point: I’m always jealous of those net-users who have enough free time to spend 18 hours a day replying to things they don’t like. Because nothing contributes more to a fan discussion than an uncouth busybody telling everyone, “THIS THING YOU GUYS LIKE IS STUPID.” Sigh.

  3. You’re absolutely right about haters, J. They’re just not worth the time it would take to respond to them and they wouldn’t listen anyway. ….and how dare you interrupt their hating spree !!!

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