My daughter (age 14) informed me that at least 600 of the 1,000 boys at her school have sent photos of their, um, “junk” to girls. This is unsolicited junk. I suppose that puts a new meaning on “junk mail.”
She said some kid would send her a message on any of the 35,000 social media sites she is on and after a “howz it going” and “do you understand the homework” a photo of a penis appears on the screen. Then the boys gets a “This conversation is over. Don’t ever contact me again” message.
Yuck. Girls don’t want to see THAT. What were you thinking? Oh right. You weren’t thinking.
I was shocked. My husband said “They’re boys. They’re stupid.” My 17 year old son shrugged and said he knew all about this but he would never do anything like that. He said his girlfriend gets the same thing.
I’ve lectured my kids over and over about how it you put something out there it will always be out there. Do you want the admissions officer at Harvard seeing your “junk” or whatever? Do you want the HR Department of your dream job company to see it? Really?
Then the kids showed me how others pose in their sexy selfies. The one of the boy who pulls his shirt just over his stomach on the side made us all laugh. I’m talking 14-15 year old boys posing in their tightie-whities. It is just comic and totally stupid.
There is one girl at school who posted a photo of herself from the chin down but then tagged herself. Now if you look up her name on Google you see that naked photo. Smart move honey. EVERYBODY in school has seen that photo including your teachers. Didn’t your mama ever talk to you about things like this? Didn’t your friends talk to you?
My kids talk to me about everything and we’re extremely open about discussions about boys sending penis photos and other stupid things kids (and others do).
I suppose we can learn from the mistakes of others but when there are so many stupid things happening…
Over reacting to situations and putting blinders on kids only makes them go underground, so just keep the lines of communication open and be honest.
And kids, show the world you have a little self-respect. Please.
~ Juliette aka Vampire Maman