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I’m going to sound horrible and crass but I rarely offer to volunteer anymore.
After years of volunteering at K-8 school I’m happy to NOT be volunteering at the high school.
I rarely do pro-bono work for anyone. Be it graphic or writing or organizing or marketing, my efforts usually go without thanks.
I’m tired of the drama that so often suffocates volunteering efforts.
People who PAY me for my time are thankful. People who PAY me for my time understand the value of my time. If someone pays me to do something I do it once. If I volunteer they expect me to do it over and over and over. No. Forget it.
Yes, I should be selfless but I’m a working mom. That means I have one full time job and one more than full time job. And I have a husband. That is another person I have to manage and keep track of. And I have elderly ancient folk I keep track of. And cats. And a blog. And about 40 other things I’m involved in that I don’t get paid for. I’m helping out with a lot of things that I care about and with people and causes I care about.
So, don’t ask me to design a logo for your organization or illustrate your book for free or run your political campaign or design a brochure or do anything that I don’t suggest first.
If I feel something in my heart I will volunteer (and I do.) If I’m asked nicely I’ll volunteer (maybe.) If it is important I will volunteer. But it is my time. I have to be selfish in this matter or I will get cranky. You don’t want me to be cranky or I will never help you again. I will say NO. I won’t feel guilty.
I’m not saying not to volunteer. What I am saying is that it is OK to say NO if you’re too busy or miserable or not treated well. It is ok to say NO if you feel you’re being taken advantage of. It is OK to say NO if someone is acting like an asshole (even at church and school.)
If you are dealing with someone who is a volunteer please appreciate his or her time. Appreciate the effort they bring to the job. Appreciate their knowledge. Say THANK you to them many times. Give them a hug. Give them flowers. Give them smiles.
VALUE the people who volunteer for you.