This morning at the dog park I was talking to a teacher and the husband of a teacher.
Teachers don’t drop out of the profession because of the kids. It is the parents and administrators who make them sick and tired of the crap.
Most of my readers know what parents I’m talking about. It is the crazy ass mom who constantly complains that the teacher is unfair to her little darling (evil monster.) It is that mom who argues with the professor during a field trip to the planetarium saying there are aliens living on Mars. It is those parents who teach their kids to lie, cheat, stalk, and generally act like assholes, then complain loudly about their poor little darling being treated unfairly. It is that parent who thinks her child is the most brilliant child in the world and therefore the only one who matters. You know who this mom is. She is the one who stands up at the yearly parent information night in the school multipurpose room and states how her eight year child should be talking college level math, and she wants everyone to know how special she (the mom) is. Once my kids moved onto high school I noticed the teachers and administrators shut these parents down – or at least it seemed that way. Now that I’ve gotten that out of the way… Really, those hyper crazy moms are the people who suck the joy out of elementary and middle school out of the rest of us. So many times I’ve just wanted to yell, “GO THE FUCK AWAY,” but school authorities don’t look too kindly upon that sort of behavior…but they put up with…oh never mind. Anyway…
School is starting again. Summer was way too short this year.
My kids are awesome. I’m going to assume if you’re reading this your kids are awesome too (even if they aren’t Vampires.)
One of mine is getting ready for her senior year of high school. The other is a junior in college and getting ready for his upper division courses.
One says she doesn’t have time for boys. The other can’t think of anything but girls.
So I made my official 2016 back-to-school check list.
- School supplies (Target)
- Tell Dad what day school starts.
- Tell Dad again what day school starts.
- Ask kids if there is anything else they need.
- Ask kids again if there is anything else they need.
- And for the third (but not the last time) ask the kids if there is anything else they need.
- Check emails for last-minute information from the school.
- Ask the college junior why he is packing up a chain saw, and a 1968 set of the Encyclopedia Britannica to bring back to school with him.
- Ask the college junior to please return the two pairs of panties (different sizes) to their owners when he gets back to school.
- Tell Dad what day school starts.
- Get extra batteries for calculators and other small magic boxes.
- Give them both Dutch Brothers cards just because you’re the best mom ever.
- Remind them that there are clothes that are not band shirts.
- And last of all remind them again that their white trash thermos is ok for summer, holidays, and weekends, but not in the classroom unless it has a lid, and maybe not even then because glass shatters if dropped (a WT thermos is a large mason jar containing morning coffee when one has lost his/her travel cup.) Also remind them that it is not Mom’s fault if she knocks over the damn thing in the car because it won’t fit in the cup holder and has no lid. It is the child’s responsibility to keep their own coffee safe.
- Ask the kids if they need anything else.
- Tell them not to stress out. Tell them they’ll do great – even with the hard classes.
I’ll be checking my email over the next week for more information from the school. This is our last year in high school so I’m going to savor it all. I’m going to try not to get sad because, well, you know.
As the school year starts the one thing that I can stress it to listen to your kids. Let them know that it is safe to talk to you, their parent. Talk with them. Don’t take shrugs and grunts for answers. Engage them. Listen, listen, listen to them. And let them talk. Really let them talk. They’ll tell you a lot. You’ll learn something too.
~ Juliette aka Vampire Maman