What we’re talking about – You never have to make an excuse for loving and supporting your children (and other issues)

What we’re talking about…

In the mornings I have NPR (National Public Radio) on and we discuss the stories (the kids and I).  If something boring or especially annoying comes on we might change to music. BUT we discuss what we hear on the radio…and other things. Today we’re talking about all kinds of things, not just what is on the radio.

Rob and Will Portman, Gay Marriage and accepting your kids for who they are.

This isn’t just about having a gay child – it is about loving and supporting your child no matter what. It is about listening and learning. It is about love. Say it again – IT IS ABOUT LOVE. IT IS ABOUT LISTENING.

Upon learning his son is gay Senator Rob Portman said he now supports Same Sex Marriage. Some asshats said “NO HE CAN”T CHANGE HIS MIND”. Sure he can. Senator Portman can change his mind. Change is good. Change shows growth. Those who can’t change are usually hypercritical jerks.

Change isn’t just politics. It can mean you can change where you live, what kind of music you like, your faith, your friends, or anything else you want to change. It isn’t a bad thing. Change means growing and learning and living.

Rob Portman put his family first. I’m now standing up and cheering for him.

The teens asked, “Why don’t they interview any of the bands we like on NPR?”

Hmmm. Maybe we need to ask them. Hey NPR folks why don’t you interview the guys from Black Veil Brides, Never Shout Never, Panic at the Disco or ask My Chemical Romance why the adventure is ending?  They only interview (according to my kids) boring bands that people in their 30’s with bad hair listen to. Hmmmm. I have to say I’m not thrilled by a lot of people they feature (it makes my ears hurt) and I do believe, take that back, I know my kids have complex and refined tasted in music.

They DID like the story about all of the John Denver Covers. That was nice. I saw him in concert a long long long time ago and it was one of the best concerts I’ve ever been to. Yes I sang along to every song. Get over it. It was great.

Someone asked: Why am I still hungry after eating a pound of grilled squash? That was not on the news and I don’t have an answer to that question.

Why do the Sacramento Kings suck? Not like Vampires but the way the entire issue has everyone’s panties in a wad.  How come we never hear about what the players want? Do they want to stay in town? I don’t know the answers there. We don’t discuss it and we’re really tired of it. A new arena would be nice – so just please somebody make up your freaking mind about it and DO SOMETHING. It doesn’t take 34,000 studies and committees. Make up your mind already. College basketball was on for all of the males in the house but I don’t pay attention. I’m ALL about baseball – GO GIANTS! GO RIVERCATS.

We think Miss Vonn needs to dump Tiger before her fans leave her out in the cold.

Why are Vampires always featured in popular fiction with blood dripping down their chins? That is so gross. We’d never do that. Sigh. Modern Vampires are a little more polite and the dry cleaning bills alone discourage that sort of behavior.

And from the peanut gallery:  I want a manatee, a mouse, a rat, a hedgehog, a baby buffalo, a pug, a white French bulldog, your car when I turn 16 and a white sun dress.

I’ll let you have the sundress and maybe the car. I’ll have to think about the rest.

Have fun this week and remember TALK WITH and LISTEN TO your kids!

~ Juliette aka Vampire Maman

Vampire Teens of Olden Days (still having fun after all these years)

Vampire Teens of Olden Days (still having fun after all these years)

2013 New Year’s Resolutions for Parents

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I’m ending the year with resolutions, not just for my family but resolutions I hope all parents try to follow.

There are three words we should say to our kids every single day: I love you.

Three additional words we should always keep in mind: Love, Listen, Learn.

So with that note, here are my 2013 New Year’s Resolutions for Parents

Resolutions for ALL Parents:

  • Listen to your children with an open mind and an open heart.
  • Guide your children with wisdom and respect rather than force.
  • Talk to your kids. I’ll say it again TALK to your kids. Not AT your kids but TO your kids. This means conversations – yes, actual conversations. Talk WITH them.
  • Every single day ask your child/teen “How was your day?” and don’t take “OK”, “Fine” or any sort of grunt for an answer. Make your kid answer you in at least 25 words.
  • Don’t use your child as a tool to hurt your former spouse or other family member. If you need to CONTROL your situation or hurt someone keep CHILDREN out of it. Get professional help for your control and anger issues. No child deserves to be used as a tool of hurt.
  • Laugh with your child.
  • Know who your child is hanging out with. Start this early so by the time your kid is a teen he’ll know who is a good friend and who is not.
  • Teach your child that it is an honor to care about others.
  • Teach your child to love animals. That doesn’t mean you have to have 347 cats, a rabbit, a pony and 34 dogs. It means that creatures (even those we eat) should be respected and cared for.
  • Don’t dress your kid funny.

Resolutions for YOU:

  • Get enough sleep.
  • Don’t worry about those “super moms” who volunteer 60 hours every week at school, make organic gluten free cupcakes that would put Martha Stewart to shame, go to all the latest parenting classes, are into all the latest health and nutrition trends, have kids who are perfect etc etc etc. What to know a secret? They aren’t perfect. They might be control freaks, or bored or just plain annoying to the rest of us who ARE GOOD PARENTS. Every family is different and we all have different parenting styles. Don’t compare yourself to anybody else.
  • Get your nails done (HA HA HA. Maybe twice a year for me if I’m lucky. I wish but it keeps slipping off of my radar).

Resolutions for Vampire Parents:

  • Teach your children to accept themselves for what they are.
  • Teach your children to be responsible for what they are.
  • Teach them the history and lore.
  • Teach them the difference between popular culture and reality.
  • Tell them NOT to try to read their teacher’s mind. Come on now kids, school is for learning and learning to learn. Don’t use your Vampire abilities to get into the minds of others to get good grades. You need to get those grades on your own.

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