Unlove Letters (aka You Don’t Want Me Anymore and/or I Don’t Want YOU Anymore)
I get a lot of traffic on this blog for people looking for love letters, but what about break-up letters?
I was asked about it.
The whole idea of break-up letters leaves me cold, which is really cold considering I’m a Vampire. My philosophy, as an expert on romance and relationships is to make a break-up simple. By the way, I’m not talking about long term relationships like marriages, those which involve children, or anything involving violence and/or other abuse.
I’m also not talking about weirdness like mindful uncoupling, spiritual separations, or beyond unbonding.
My main advice is that when you break up you need to BREAK up. Don’t keep going back for more. Cut the social ties. Divide up the mutual friends. Be an adult, pull up your pants, put on your dancing shoes, and move on. Move on ESPECIALLY if they leave you. Please don’t make a fool out of yourself. Just move on. Cut your losses. Find yourself something that fits better.
But if you’re dating or moved in with someone and knew within the first week you’d made a bad mistake then sure, leave a note, then LEAVE.
Please don’t leave a long letter detailing everything annoying thing your former other did that you failed to tell them about when you were dating. Just keep it simple. Like I said, just move on. Make it quick and clean – it won’t hurt so much that way.
Dear Former Sugar Bear,
I took everything that was mine, including the cats. There is a half bottle of blood, and a bottle of white wine in the refrigerator. You can have those. I’ve blocked your number. Don’t ask me why I left. You know why.
Dear Zombie Pie,
I found another woman’s finger in our bed. I’m leaving. Don’t fall apart over it you pathetic brainless mess.
You howled under the wrong moon one too many times.
Don’t try to ghost me. I beat you to it. You’re so fucking transparent.
There was always something fishy about this relationship. I need someone warm. Like maybe another mammal.
I can’t live with your bad taste. I have to go before my eyes explode.
If you want a grown up woman and not just a playmate or a guy with tits then GROW UP.
You kind of get where I’m going with this. Keep it simple. Even keep it civil. Breaking up isn’t easy. Don’t make it harder on yourself than it has to be.
By the way, this is the last time I’m going to do this subject.
~ Juliette aka Vampire Maman
About this video: This was a local band that made one big national hit song. I saw these guys once and after the show we all went to a friend’s house. She was in love with one of the band members but he showed up with some trashy woman with big hair, super long fake finger nails, and a tight animal print dress. She was all over him like a bad rash. Too bad because they (my friend and the cute band member) would have made a cute couple. They would have been happy forever. You blew it dude. My friend, who was drunk, locked herself in her bedroom and passed out. My purse and keys were in there. I stayed the night trying to wake her up and listening to some asshole asking me if I wanted to do lines with him. Not not running lines for a play. That’s all. I think I fell asleep on the couch while some big dog growled at me every time I moved. This was in the 80’s. The 1980’s not the 1880’s.
By the way, that video starts out in Old Sacramento. The mansion shown later in the video is just down the road from the home of Eleora and Tellias. That is just trivia. Steel Breeze was a Sacramento band. The band members went to University of California Davis. Local stuff.