A Short Public Service Announcement: Talking to your kids is like weight loss.

School has started.

OK now what? I’m hearing parents saying “My kid never talks to me about anything.”

You know, talking to your kids is like losing weight.

If you don’t do anything about it nothing is going to happen.

If you don’t talk to your children they won’t talk to you. If you don’t press them for information and engage them then they won’t talk to you. If you don’t encourage them to talk they won’t talk to you.

Notice how they’ll talk to their peers? Maybe their peers aren’t drilling them. Maybe they’ll just shooting the breeze and having a comfortable silly conversation. Maybe their peers aren’t judging them.

Anyway… that is today’s parenting tip from the woman who can’t get her kids to shut up.

But I’m glad they won’t shut up. I might not be a perfect mom in all ways (God knows I’m not) but we’re a family full of people who talk to each other and share with each other. It started early. It continues today. We make a point of not accepting grunts or one word answers.

Engage your kids. Encourage them to express their thoughts and opinions. LISTEN to them without judgment.

Sure, not all kids are talkers, but monosyllabic answers shouldn’t be the norm.

Don’t tell me you don’t know what to say. Just spit it out. Tell them a funny story. Ask them about their classes. Ask them what they like or don’t like. Discuss the news with them or dinner or your dog. Any subject will do, as long as you attempt to engage them.

Let them know they’re safe expressing their ideas with you. You’ll be glad you did. So will they.

 

~ Juliette aka Vampire Maman

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