The night belongs to us. Of course it does. We’re Vampires. But we’re also parents, and this is a first and foremost a parenting blog.
My main message is to talk with your kids, share with them, listen to them, teach them, respect them, treasure them. Don’t spoil them except with love and knowledge. Open the world to them and they will explore on their own. They will bring their discoveries and knowledge back to you. The circle is complete.
This morning my 16-year-old Clara showed me a new cover by the band Night Riots. Let me back up a little bit since some of you may have never heard of Night Riots. I feel like they are one of the best bands out in the past thirty years. Seriously, I like this band that much. My daughter started listening to them. Then I did. I was hooked. We saw them at Warped Tour this summer in Mountain View, CA.
So this morning I received a text from Clara (while I was out on business) saying they’d done a cover of “Because the Night.”
When I arrived home I Clara was excited to share it with me. I listened to the Night Riots version. It was great. Wow.
I asked Clara if she’d heard the Patti Smith version. She said, “I didn’t know it was written by a woman.”
Of course it was. By Patti Smith, who is still singing. Patti Smith is, well, Patti Smith. Need I say more?
She loved the Patti Smith version too.
Her first comment was, “I love her voice. It isn’t whiney.”
Clara doesn’t listen to female pop stars for the most part. Neither do I. So many are breathy or have fake auto tuned voices. They don’t sound real. They sound childish. They sound annoying.
Patti Smith is none of that. She sings. She really sings.
So the guys in Night Riots do justice to her music by putting out a fantastic cover.
I’m not sharing this so much as a music post, but as a parenting post. We share with each other. We learn from each other.
We discussed musical influences from the 1970’s and 1980’s. Not disco crap or silly really bad pop music, but real music that lasts.
Just like real parenting lasts. Real communication lasts. Deliberate parenting lasts a lifetime. If you’re going to have kids then put in the effort. Make them yours. Let them make you theirs.
Yes, let your kids make you theirs. They learn from you and you mould them. In turn, you can learn from them. Let them make you a better person. Let them open your eyes to new things.
This Thanksgiving be thankful for the young people in your lives. Don’t spend your time judging or criticizing them. Don’t get after them about their hair, their clothing, their music or whatever stupid superficial thing that you think is important. Listen to them and let them tell you about what they think is important. Find out what their dreams are. Tell them about your dreams. Share your music. Share some turkey. Share some love.
Teens are as precious and important as babies or toddlers. Parenting doesn’t stop at elementary school. Now more than ever they need you. And now more than ever you need them. You might not know it but you need them too. They’ll keep you young. They’ll introduce you to music. They’ll be in awe of your shared knowledge. They respect you for respecting them.
~ Juliette aka Vampire Maman
Night Riots: Contagious