What’s one of the scariest things you can do to your kids?
What is one of the dumbest things you can do to your kids?
What is one of the smartest things you can do to your kids?
Get their hopes up.
As a creative type I have to say that my life has been one big game of getting my hopes up only to have them dashed on the rocks of disappointment (well that was bad writing).
On the other hand, my kids aren’t me. I’m not my mom. But the real lesson in all of this is that 1. It will happen. 2. Most things in life are subjective. 3. If you don’t ask or try the answer will ALWAYS be NO. 4. If you do ask there is a good chance the answer will be yes.
This applies to all situations from getting that part in the school play, to love, to college applications, to job applications, to sporting events and just about everything.
The sting of disappointment is brutal. But when something good does happen, which more often than not, it does – it’s a wonderful thing.
This is one are where I teach my kids to expect a lot, but also expect to be disappointed sometimes. It HURTS, but buck it up and get on with life. It isn’t the end of things. Use a bad experience to make yourself tough.
There again, it all comes down to talking with your kids. Share with them what they feel, honestly and realistically.
As our cowboy friends would say “Get back on that horse and ride.”
As our Vampire friends would say “Dusk will always turns to dawn.”