I’m sure by now you’ve all heard or read about the dozens of wealthy parents who have been caught in a nationwide cheating/fraud. In order to get their brats into a hard to get into college such as Stanford, Yale, USC, and UCLA, these parents bribed coaches to say their children were star athletes, and they paid a college prep organization to take SAT and other tests on behalf of the students, or correct their answers.
This included famous parents such as actresses Felicity Huffman and Lori Loughlin.
In 2012 when I started this blog most of the posts were about Middle School and High School happenings.
Over the past few years it has been about college. That includes college admissions.
I’ve watched about a dozen kids, including my own, work hard to get into Colleges and Universities. They’ve busted their butts to get good grades. They’ve worked hard and smart in their extracurricular activities. They’ve put their hearts and souls, and everything else they have into getting into their chosen school.
I’ve also heard heartbreaking stories of amazing kids, with great grades and impressive achievements get rejection letters from all of their top choices. There is absolutely no logic or reason these kids should not have been accepted. My heart just broke every time I heard about another unreasonable rejection letter.
Maybe now we know at least part of the story. Douchebag parents with a shit load more money than your average middle class family are bribing and cheating to get their little lazy ass darlings into good schools.
Is this jealously of the rich and famous? No, because I could have afforded to cheat to get my child into a fine university, but the price would have been too high. The price of losing my child’s respect and knowing I’d done a bad thing would have been too high.
There is no room for cheating when it comes to parenting. There is no room for cheating when it comes to life.
History is full of people who have cheated to get into the right college and get where they are right now, including some who hold extremely high offices. They threaten to sue those who uncover their dishonesty. They brush it off. Some die with their secrets.
The same kids who cheat to get into a school are the same ones who get money from mommy and daddy to hire someone to write their papers. They’re the same parents who will pad their children’s resumes with fake jobs. The list goes on and on.
Felicity Huffman and her husband William H. Macy are acting as bad, or even worse than the characters on his show Shameless.
Families who are involved from admissions cheating should be banned from any respectable College or University, public or private.
For those of you who say the students should not be punished, only the parent: I say bullshit.
Most kids I know don’t even let their parents help with applications, writing admissions essays, helping with their SAT, or anything else that has to do with the actual admissions process.
As parents we are allowed to go with them on school tours, listen to their concerns, pay for anything we can, and give them moral support. The young people in my life would be absolutely horrified if they knew we’d cheated on their behalf. None of these kids would want to ever talk to their parents again. They’d say NO.
But you know what? I am sure the pampered children of the rich and famous cheaters were fine with this. They never say “NO MOM.” Cheating and paying to get everything they want is normal for them. They don’t know what it means to work hard.
The children I feel sorry for are the ones who did not know what their parents did. They will suffer in the fall out of their parent’s bad actions.
Money can buy a lot. I have no problems with money. I have problems with cheaters and bad parents. I have no problems with parents who help their kids get jobs and educational opportunities HONESTLY and above board. I have problems with cheaters and liars.
I have problems with people who STEAL university spots from hard working deserving kids.
- Don’t cheat.
- Don’t be a douche.
- Support your kids in their dreams without doing it all for them.
- Talk with your kids.
- Encourage your kids to be independent.
- Be a person that your child will look up to, or at least love and respect.
~ Juliette aka Vampire Maman
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