A Note From Juliette:
We all thought we’d be out of pandemic mode by now, but at least, for our kids, most of them are starting school in person again.
When I started this blog in 2012 my daughter was just starting Middle School. About a month ago she started her first year in Graduate School to get a double masters in Public Policy and Urban Planning. In 2012 neither she nor I could have even imagined the fall of 2021.
This blog was built on two things parenting, and well, um, Vampires. Since October isn’t quite here yet I’ve decided to share some of the most popular posts about Middle School and High School. These are challenging years for both parents and kids. They are also wonderful and rewarding years.
Parenting a teen takes time, effort, and deliberate thought. It also takes an open mind, an open ear, a shoulder always there to lean on and cry on, and it means as a parent you need to listen. You need to really listen. You also need to talk to your child openly and clearly. This is not the time to be shy about thoughts on school, the future, sex, drugs, bullying, the Internet, or any other issue you might think you’re uncomfortable about. You are the parent so be the parent. Be the adult. Your kid will thank you for it later (especially when they get that acceptance letter to get into grad school.)
MIDDLE SCHOOL 101 – LIFE ISN’T FAIR. BROWN NOSERS, SHALLOW GEEKERY AND NEPOTISM
Someone is hating Middle School because a teacher accused her of copying work (which she did not). So now the child wants to quit an activity because of it. Now she says the teacher hates her. More discussions at home, more being pissed off, more wondering WTF happened with school this year? It was great last year?
Someone is hating Middle School because another teacher favors her own daughter (and daughter’s friends) over the other kids, and tells everyone how they should all be like said daughter (I’m going to have to talk to the school about that).
This is the same teacher who told my daughter that her lovely simple dress was “a bit much” for a dance, while teacher’s daughter was dressed in sloppy cargo shorts and a ill fitting tee shirt. In fact 98% of the boys dressed better in slacks and shirts with collars. I’m sure this teacher said snarky things to them as well. Wait, this is a public school, teachers shouldn’t be terrorizing kids. They should be encouraging them and teaching them. I guess I could be shallow and chalk that one up to “don’t hate me because I’m beautiful”.
The smartest kids aren’t the ones who jump up and wave their hands “pick me, pick me”.
The smartest kids don’t use big words and shame other students to impress you and show you how smart they are.
The smart kids are the ones who are watching, observing, listening and planning, knowing how one day they’ll be in the real world where nobody is impressed by your vast knowledge of facts and big words and brown-nosing.
For the smart kids are those with vision (and that includes a good sense their own personal style and a sense of humor not always based on what adults, including their parents or teachers, think). They are the ones who can engage in a private conversation that revolves around ideas that have nothing to do with school – but with free independent thought.
All kids are smart – they just show it in different ways and no kids should be discounted or overlooked by preconceived notions of how a smart kid should act.
Feeling like one is being treated unfairly is real and a real lesson in life. Unfortunately is happens and it happens too often. For most kids it will make them tough and they’ll learn from it.
First published September 28, 2012
Stay safe. Wear a mask. Get vaccinated. Hug your dogs and cats. Be kind. Don’t be a dick. Talk to your kids. Talk with your kids. Listen to your kids (really listen without jumping in or judging.) Check in on those who are elderly, need extra help, or alone. And kiss a Vampire – you’ll thank me for it later.
~ Juliette aka Vampire Maman