If you find yourself in the LA area certain times of years you’ll see billboards about movies and “For Your Consideration” for the Oscar Award Voters.
If you belong to the HWA you’ll get notices with links to some amazing stories – of course for your consideration for the Stoker Awards.
I with the best to all creative people who strive to be recognized for whatever it is that they do. I can’t think of anything more heartfelt than an artist, writer, actor, film maker, photographer, musician, or any creative person putting themselves on the line in order to share their work. Sure some do it for fame and fortune, but a lot do it for other reasons. Sometimes we’re just attention whores. Sometimes we just want to amuse ourselves. Sometimes we just want to show something for our time. Sometimes it is just nice to get recognized.
This kind of stuff can drive anyone crazy.
As parents of both tiny tots, school age children, Middle Schoolers, teens (especially teens), and parents of adults (especially your adult children) you need to talk to them about this.
We all need recognition.
We all need to give recognition to others.
We all need to have our dreams and strive for them.
We also need to talk about why.
We need to teach our children that the sky is the limit while at the same time teaching them to be realistic and not live in a La La Land.
Of course here is where I make the joke about kids who really do live in LA, but that is another blog post.
If you’re going to dream big you have to do your research, work hard, work smart, know your goal, and do your best. You have to believe in yourself. And if you don’t get the big recognition and become a household word that is OK. You’ll have your success but maybe in a different way than you thought.
Teach your kids that they can have dreams. They should have dreams. But also teach them that dreams don’t come true by being discovered by some fairy godmother, or one day coming home from work and finding an invitation to become a MacArthur fellow taped to your front door. It takes hard work, dedication, and like I said, working smart.
Dreams don’t have to be public. Dreams don’t have to make you a household name. Dreams can be something private. Dreams can be big to you but small to others. Dreams and achieving those dreams can also be private.
It is one of those double edged sword situations. Don’t encourage unreasonable fantasies, but never be the one to kill dreams in anyone. Even if they’re going to fail, or YOU think they’ll fail, don’t be a dream killer.
Now go out and live your best life, and be the best parent you can.
Stay safe. Wear a mask when required. Get vaccinated against everything. Check in on those who are elderly, alone, or need extra help. Hug your dogs and cats. Be kind. Don’t be a dick. Most of all talk to your kids, and listen to them, no matter how young or old they are. And kiss a Vampire (you’ll thank me for it later.)
~ Juliette aka Vampire Maman
By the way…this is my Oscar, a very handsome tuxedo cat, always ready to be in the spotlight.