My husband Teddy can talk to anyone about anything. He is so good with people. He always has been.
I love to watch and listen as he makes others comfortable and engaged. He makes everyone feel as if they are interesting and important.
Every woman feels beautiful and fascinating in his presence. Every man feels as if he has a life long friend.
I on the other hand tend to be more quiet and reserved around those I don’t know, and even those I do know. But I too can fascinate.
I don’t know where this one is going, I have stuff to do and I’m waiting for my nails to dry because the entire weekend is just one social event after another. The past few weekends have been like that. That is a good thing.
It is a good thing that Teddy will be along.
We’re always close. His hand is never far from mine. Even when he is across the room I feel his presence. We talk to other people but we’re never apart. Sometimes it almost seems like we’re the most romantic when we’re not alone. I don’t mean gross or overt public displays of affection, but the need to feel safe. Or maybe just to bounce ideas off of each other, or show each other off (look at my fascinating and funny spouse.)
We’re one of those couples. In a more mature way.
My existence isn’t perfect. But as with our parenting philosophy we don’t take our marriage or romance for granted, or by accident. We try to make things happen, not happen to us.
Just like advice for raising kids the same goes for all relationships.
Talk with the people you love. LISTEN to them. Make it safe for them to express themselves. Laugh at their stupid jokes.
In our wedding vows we added “play.” Yes, we make sure we play.
We have our disagreements. We’ve had our fights. I’m always sort of weirded out by people who say they’ve never had a fight with their spouse, or a disagreement.
But we’re together, as partners.
I’ll be once again fascinated this weekend as he makes everyone else feel fascinating.
And as I walk by in a crowded room he’ll hook one of my fingers with his, or put a hand on the small of my back, and whisper an observation in my ear that only I will understand.
I have to go. My nails are dry. I have to get ready to go.
Have a wonderful weekend everyone.
~ Juliette aka Vampire Maman