A word from the Vampire Maman on being polite. Don’t be a Troll.

Nobody likes Trolls.

A message, from the parenting blogger – something you might not have learned from your parents.

If you don’t have anything nice to say then just shut the F up.  Just don’t say it – especially if it is to a friend (or someone you want to be your friend.)

You’ve been going to too many hack writing groups where people just trash each other to feel power. That isn’t popular anymore. It is also counter productive for all parties involved. Just cut it out.

Before you comment and say something negative take a deep breath, count to 30,000, come back the next day and say to yourself “Do I really want to say that?” At that point, if you still have something to say you can say it in a reasonable manner or say it in private to the party you don’t agree with rather than putting it out in public for all to see.

You can really hurt your poet, writer, artist, lover, human and all other kinds of friends if you don’t STOP and THINK.

Yes, we all write funny, rude, snarky and nasty stuff but this isn’t what this post is about. So don’t worry to my author friends – I  respect you and your right to say anything you want. But rest assured if I don’t agree with you or think your post is boring I’m not going to tell you. I’m just going to move on and hope I like the next post better.

I’m not saying don’t write or say what you want. I’m all for freedom of speech. If I think you are crude or don’t like your taste in music or books or politics or whatever I’m going to move on – I would never comment on it on YOUR blog or other social media page. If I do then you need to call me out on it (so I won’t do it again.)

Teach this to the kids and the adults in your life.

Why am I posting this? Because in all forms of social media it is easy to barf all over something without thinking that your stink will stay after you left. It is so easy to hurt someone. We drill our teens on this – and we need to keep drilling them on it. But we also need to drill the adults in our lives. I know a lot of authors – seasoned and starting out – and I want them ALL to do well. I want all of us who write and who read to support our community. And when I talk to both the kids and adults in my life they say this is a problem. Nobody likes rudeness. If you don’t agree with someone just walk away – especially if it is a friend.

Don’t go looking for stuff on this blog – you won’t find it. Nobody made a nasty troll like comment here. Thank goodness. I love you all. Thank you for your support. I’ve just seen rude behavior in other places and I don’t like it. I don’t like to see someone go out of their way to post a story or a thought and have someone make a senseless rude remark about it. That is it. Just the mom in me coming out.

This isn’t about “reviews” it is about manners. Of course a lot of the rude people won’t even read this or if they do they won’t understand it.

Don’t be a troll. Just DON’T do it.

Click here for more on rudeness from Vampire Maman.

~ Juliette aka Vampire Maman

be nice


  1. I totally agree! I would never tear someone else’s work apart. What is the point. It isn’t cool. Grace goes a long way. It lifts the spirit ~ something we all need.

  2. I know a few trolls who are warm and fuzzy and kindhearted, and who are tired of creeps on the internet giving them a bad name. Their mothers should pull them by their long, hairy ears for their bad online manners….

  3. Love your blog Juliette and especially this quote of yours..[Before you comment and say something negative take a deep breath, count to 30,000, come back the next day and say to yourself “Do I really want to say that?” ]
    Your blogging friend

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