Why is there so much paperwork?
Oh the joys of being an adult.
And the joys of being a parent. You still need to answer their questions.
Adult child: Why is there so much paperwork?
Parent of adult child: Fuck, I don’t know.
For the parent of the rare Vampire child there are even more questions. My children continue to have questions. Clara who is 19, is pretty good about accepting whatever comes her way, taking charge of it, and rolling with it. Garrett, who is 22, tends to over think, but that’s ok.
A few days ago Garrett called me and asked, “When am I going to age out?”
Me: Age out?
Garrett: Mom, you know what I’m talking about. When am I going to stop aging? How old am I going to look for the rest of my life?”
Me: I don’t know. I suppose between 25 and 40. The average seems to be early to mid 30’s.
Garrett: I don’t want to age out before I’m 25. What if I always look like a college student.
Me: That depends on how you dress. You’ll be fine. Don’t worry about it.
Then he asked: What’s up with all these creepy older Vampires hitting on me?
Me: What do you mean by older?
Garrett: Like your age or older.
Me: Tell them no. It’s the same as with people who aren’t Vampires. Don’t let them bother you. They’re older and maybe have a lot of power, but they don’t have power over your body or your emotions. Tell them to stop. If someone won’t leave you alone call me. I’m still your mom. I’ll deal with them.
I told him that some old Vampires have been reading too much fiction. Also, creepers come in all forms. Why are we still even dealing with that issue? You’d think that everyone would have evolved by now.
Speaking of evolving…
High School and a person’s early 20’s are a fun time. It is a time to explore who you are and what you want to become. It is a time when the popular culture such as music and fashion sticks with you and becomes part of who you identify as. You’ll always identify with that time. That isn’t a bad thing.
The bad thing is when someone sticks with that time and those experiences as who they are forever. Just listen to Bruce Springsteen’s “Glory Days,” or “1985” by SR-71. You can love or hate either or both songs, but the message is clear. Don’t be that person who is stuck in a time warp. Vampires tend to do that and become ridiculous parodies of their own lack of vision. Yes, I had a great time in 1885 but I’m living in the 21st Century. Stay relevant.
Yes, stay relevant. That is one message you can’t say enough to your adult Vampire child.
My brother Aaron was always resisted technology. Sure Aaron, you were born in the 1850’s but you don’t still have to act like you are living in the 1950’s. Finally our dad who was born in the 1650’s pulled him aside and told him to get with it and stay relevant.
Sure I loved bustle dresses, but I don’t wear them anymore than I still wear huge shoulder pads.
Garrett: Why is everything so expensive?
Me: I don’t know.
I try to explain fluctuations in fuel prices, international politics, weather changes, and other factors that go into inflation. Sometimes things are just expensive for no reason. I never took any economics classes and those things make my head spin. That is when I say, “go ask your dad.”
Garrett: Why do they take so much out of my paycheck?
Me: Hell, I don’t know. Vote.
The paycheck message is brutal. Unfortunately our representatives in government believe they are leaders. They are not leaders. They were elected to represent us. They’re doing a piss poor job of it (all parties, all sides.) They always have done a piss poor job. Vote. Get involved. Vote.
Garrett: Do you think there will ever be a time when we, you know Vampires, can come out in the open about who we are?
Me: Because they’ll kill us?
Me: Because we drink their blood.
Garrett: I get it but…it isn’t right.
Me: People are always afraid of what they don’t understand or can’t comprehend.
This conversation has been going on for years. We went on in-depth about Vampire Hunters and all sorts of assholes out there who are going to try to knock us down. You just have to be true to yourself, do what is right, and move on.
Just imagine being a Werewolf. They have no control over what happens on a full moon night.
Anyway, I guess the whole point of this chat over my first morning cup of coffee is that no matter how old your kids are you have to be there for them. They will have those burning questions. They’ll always have questions, even after they’re grown. You won’t always have the answers but that is ok. Sometimes they just need someone to talk to. And sometimes you just need to listen.
If you don’t have an answer you can look for it together.
A bit of business: This is week 51. The 50 Burning Questions ended last week. Yes, for 50 weeks I posted Burning Questions for YOU to answer and discuss. It was super fun. Thank you everyone for participating. I’ll have more fun in the future along those lines. In the meantime I need a break. I also need to get back to writing more parenting and Vampireing posts. Click here to see all of the Burning Questions.
~ Juliette aka Vampire Maman