About those Vampires… and other things

I blog about parenting.

this guy

And Vampires.

vampire teens

If you’re looking for the latest trend in massive mondo strollers, yoga pants, sparking pedophile Vampires, chins dripping in blood, dark evil Vampire Lords, tiger mom shit, you’ve come to the wrong blog.

So here we go… this is the story.

In 1849 several groups of Vampires headed West of California for a new beginning. They were part of the growing movement, later called the “Modern Vampire Movement, of individuals who no longer wanted to live in the dark, hidden away. They lived with regular people, as regular people, except they were Vampires. Aside from their hidden identities and some rather different biology and lifestyle issues they were indistinguishable from most people.

My family settled in the Sacramento area, where some of us till love. I was born here, part of a family of rare Vampire children. Yes, Vampires can had children together. They can’t have kids with non-Vampires.

Werewolves also moved West and lived in their communities as well. They could always be picked out of crowd by their flashy clothing and snarky personalities.

That is about it. No blood dripping Dark Vampire Lord. No sparkling pedophiles. Sure there are what we call Shadow Creepers. They’re the Vampires who act like creepy ghouls, in the shadows and lurk in the dark at night. There are also those who are truly dead due to the fact that they have no souls. They’re the dangerous ones. OK, fine, we’re all dangerous to some point, but seriously less so than our warmer blooded relatives.

This is the end of the explanation.

I write about my family and my world.

My message isn’t really about Vampires.

This is what it is about:

  • Talking to your kids.
  • Listening to your kids.
  • Relationships.
  • Cat Poetry.
  • Accepting differences.
  • Modern Life.
  • Fitting in.
  • Not fitting in.
  • Being different.
  • Being the same.
  • Talking to your kids.
  • Communication with your children.
  • Short fiction.
  • Musings.
  • Odds and ends.
  • Venting.
  • Cats.
  • Dogs.
  • Old people.
  • Life changes.
  • Empty nest.
  • Deliberate parenting.
  • Old or interesting cemeteries.
  • Funny stuff.
  • Burning Questions.
  • Musings.
  • Possums (and other woodland creatures)
  • Other things.
  • Being there for your kids. Always.

I believe that covers most of it. I’m still half asleep so if I left something out I’ll post it later. I need either more coffee or I need to go back to bed. I’m not sure which yet. I’ll know in about five minutes.

Thanks for dropping by.

~ Juliette aka Vampire Maman

 

 

The “P” and the “V” Words. Six years of Vampire Maman.

A life with a blog and children is a life of continuous interruptions. Add in a spouse and, well, good luck with any train of thought you might ever have forever.

I just realized, today that the first post on vampiremaman.com went live on April 12, 2012.

In the beginning I didn’t know the “P” word, and the “V” word carried so much emotional weight with readers. OK I’ll admit I knew the “P” word would. That is parenting. That is something I am firmly and completely dedicated to.

The “V” word, that is “Vampires” is something completely different. At first I had readers show disbelief. There were also Vampire “experts” who felt the need to tell me that I was wrong. Excuse me? As a mom there were only two words I wished to express to those yahoos and that was “fuck you.” But like a good mom, and even a better Vampire I refrained. Several folks told me that I was going to go to Hell without so much as a Do Not Pass Go. It makes one sort of think what motivates people to search out others and tell them that? Parenting 101 will tell you to teach your kids NOT to behave like that. Since then those kinds of assholes have ceased their yammering. I know all of you who blog know the type.

But enough of that. I have been so surrounded by love and support and community that it completely warms my cold Vampire heart. Completely!

Six years ago I started the musings of a modern Vampire mom. Six years. Wow.

My blog has grown from what I thought would be a few parenting posts, and maybe a bad poem or two.

My first guest posts in May 2012 were from Marie Williams the Half Pint Historian, and Mandy White, author of The Jealousy Game (a book about relationships that I recommend to everyone.)

In the summer of 2012 I started to blog about the TV show “America’s Got Talent and Cocktails.” The comments from the Vampire peanut gallery, plus cocktail recipes from my husband Teddy proved to be fun and popular with readers. I’ve continued the series every summer since then.

It was then that I also posted “Love Poems and Letting Go”, my first post about love letters and the teenage heart.

September 2012 brought the first appearance of The Ghost. Yes, that would be Nigel. Yes, he is still around, making snarky remarks and flipping me off every single chance he gets.

In October 2012 you were introduced to Tellias and Eleora the ancient Vampires. Like a lot of my readers I was raising children and taking care of elders. It is both frustrating and rewarding to be in the middle like that.

Soon after that came the most popular post on this blog, “How to Write a Response to a Love Letter (which is more fun if it isn’t addressed to you.) On some days over half the traffic on this blog comes from that post. Since then I’ve written quite a few posts about love letters. I’ve become the Queen of Love Letters.

On August 4, 2013 I first posted the story about my brother Andy called, “Dancing on the Beach.” I need to write a book about Andy and his crazy adventures.

Sometime around then I started the regular feature “Short Story Sunday”. Every Sunday you get a new story, or a good rerun.

2014 brought “The Hunter,” and the introduction of the Austin and Elizabeth series. He is a Vampire Hunter. She is a Vampire. Yes, it is complicated.

And in December 2014 I posted the first installment of Vlad’s “Vampire Diary.”

That is just a few of the regular features. I’ve written about taking your kids to rock concerts, school, a lot about bullies, helping your kids get through rough patches, and all of those things our kids go through until they reach adulthood and leave.

Now that my kids have reached adulthood they still need me. And I still need them. You never stop being a parent.

I continue to write about Vampires, Werewolves, Ghosts, and others who are different.

A long running occasional feature is “What we talked about this morning on the way to school.” Today I write about this feature with a heavy heart. Too often we talked about school shootings. Since 2013 there have been over 300 school shootings in the United States. There have been at least 43 in 2018 including Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School in Parkland Florida where 17 were killed, and today in Texas. I cried when I told my kids about the Sandy Hook School shooting. I still cry. It has to stop. It is happening in elementary schools, high school, and colleges. It is happening at concerts, in clubs, and you name it. The insanity needs to stop and you need to talk about it with your kids. You also need to VOTE and tell your 18+ year old kids to VOTE.

My main message here for parents always has been, and always will be TALK WITH YOUR KIDS. Don’t talk at them. Don’t lecture. Share and listen. Listen to your kids. There is a lot you can learn. Don’t shelter them. Don’t judge them. Be honest. Be firm. Be loving. Let them know that they can trust you and come to you with anything. They’re your children. There is NOTHING you need to be uncomfortable about. And even if you don’t agree with them, the least you can do is hear them out. Let them know that their opinions count. Let them also know that your opinions also count. Guide them, love them, hug them, treasure them.

And on a lighter note, this year I started the NEW feature “50 Burning Questions.” For fifty weeks, always on Saturday, I will be asking a BURNING QUESTION. On each post is a simple poll where you can check your answer. Comments and theories are encouraged. Check it out!

With almost 2,000 blog posts here there is a lot to read and something for everyone. I hope that in the next six years I’ll have another 2,000 posts to share.

Thanks for helping me make Vampiremaman.com a success.

~ Juliette aka Vampire Maman

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Vampire Maman

 

 

 

 

Outtakes (from a parenting/vampire blogger)


These are the recent outtakes (the absolute real reason I’ve started so many blog posts lately and not finished a one, hence all the dead space and reruns.)

THIS

I received my 11th telemarketing weirdo freak call of the day and I tell the guy, “Hey, you know what, go suck your own dick.” He tries to say something. I continue. “And while you’re at it go to a dark room and close the door so nobody can see you. Just do it you fuck head.” Then I turn around and see my daughter’s sports coach looking at me in a somewhat shocked manner.

OR

From the truth is more disgusting than fiction files… this morning a kid in my daughter’s English class accidentally left a window in his car cracked. Someone broke into his car, crapped on the seats, then smeared it all over the car. He had the car towed because he couldn’t drive it. He said he could smell it about five cars down. If the kids who did it are caught they won’t be able to graduate, and if it isn’t a seniors they’ll be kicked out of the school. Ugh. The poor kid with the car can’t figure out who could hate him so much. Of course every kid in the school knows about it now so I’m sure they’ll find the criminal crappers soon.

OR

It is International Women’s Day and….

OR

A question for my advice column: Dear Juliette, an agent requested I send her my vampire romance. I haven’t heard from her in two years. Now what? Do I keep sending it out to agents? Do I self-publish? Do I go back to law school? ~ Writer in Waiting.

OR

My daughter is graduating from high school on June 2. And this is where I started to cry and couldn’t think of anything else to write.

OR

A few weeks ago I went on a high school field trip with two bus loads of advanced art students. It was fun. The kids were great. A crazy guy said one of the girls assaulted him in Golden Gate Park. My mind just went totally and completely blank.

OR

I’ve filled my twitter feed with political rage. Maybe that wasn’t the right branding choice.

OR

St. Patrick’s Day is coming up. Snakes. Ireland. Vampires. Drinking. Small children… Actually, I might have a story here…

OR

The frustrations of training a 13-month old German Shepard Dog. Let’s just start cussing NOW.

OR

Why I HATE Cover Reveals and fifty other ways to offend other bloggers.

OR

I was going through some old photos the other day and I found a couple of CIA Operatives.

OR

I’m not getting enough sleep. I have a lot of demands and shit like that. Seriously, I am not getting enough sleep and I’m losing my mind. Wait, I lost it a long time ago, I think. Maybe…

OR

Why are so many people reading my story The Travelers?  I’ve posted the story quite a few times, but this is the original 2012 post. This is traditionally a Christmas story. But seriously, the traffic for this story has gone through the roof for about six months. I thought people were coming here for love letters. They’re coming here for love letters and THE TRAVELERS. WHO ARE YOU??? I even put a note on the end of the post and nobody will get back to me about it. Please let me know if it is on a story list or what/why/who.

OR

I got nuthin.

 

~ Juliette aka Vampire Maman

 

 

 

Dear Pants on Fire,

I’ve been receiving (flooded with) a bunch of emails lately from people who say things like:

  • My article would fit your blog.
  • My colleague told me about your blog.
  • Mommy Bloggers like you.
  • You share our concerns about parenting.

Then they go on to prove to me that they know nothing about me or my blog.

First of all I AM NOT a Mommy Blogger. I blog about parenting teens and young adults. I blog about Vampires. I HATE the term Mommy Blogger. The term Mommy Blogger makes me think of silly women who wear nothing but yoga pants, have expertly done highlights, think their children are the absolute center of the universe, and don’t know their husbands are sleeping with the top female executive where he works.

If you read my blog you would know that I don’t pitch products or services that I don’t use.

I write from the viewpoint of a Modern Vampire Mom. Get it?

I also write from the viewpoint of a mom who works, a mom who reads, a mom who is realistic about the world her kids live in, and a mom who thinks honest communication with children is more important than stroking the self-esteem of bratty smug children who are treated by their parents like they are Jesus Christ himself.

You’re a liar. You don’t read my blog. All you did was have your robot search for the tags that said things like “parenting” and “mom.”

Stop wasting my email space.

Where the fuck did you come from?

Yes, if you have a product for moms who swear too much I might write a review.

Yes, I will write a review of your product for $500 up front, and I can’t guarantee it will be good.

No, I will not link to your site just because you asked. I’m not THAT stupid.

I worked in marketing for over 35 years so I know the tricks. The tricks are old and stupid. That dog can’t jump anymore. Just put the poor creature down and leave me the hell alone.

Your profile is obviously fake. Do you think anyone is that stupid? You must because obviously someone has taken you up on an offer. Maybe not. I’ve met a lot of stupid marketing people in my time. Way too many.

We’re Vampires here. We drink blood. We say snarky things. We love our children. We’re smoking hot sexy. We love our regular human friends too much to subject them to stupid stuff – you know, like that stuff you email me about. So stop it.

I’m not even going to tell you to watch out for things that go bump in the night.

And to my wonderful regular readers – I will never subject you to any sales pitches unless it is to check out my merch page (for great shirts, pillows, and other cool Victorian Vampire themed stuff), or for stuff I like, or if I attempt to write and self publish another lame book, OR one of the WPaD Publications (proceeds go to MS Research.) Or to tell you about a book, blog (like maybe your blog), movie, song, or something I really love. But you know where I’m going with this. 

Can you imagine an infomercial type post featuring Tellias and Eleora, Max, Vlad, or The Ghost? No, neither can I. 

xoxox

~ Juliette aka Vampire Maman

 

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Searching for Vampires and Love Letters (and a monkey on your knee)

Looking for Vampires?

backtoschoolPeople want to know about Vampires and so it only makes sense that so many of them should end up here at VampireMaman.com

Visitors come to my blog all sorts of ways but the most unique ways are though search terms on search engines. Most are clear cut but some do surprise me. Below are some examples and my comment on those terms in italics. Note: I copied the search terms as they showed up on the search term report.

Search term: Bimbos eat lunch

I’m sure they do.

Search term: Vampire having sex with a monkey on its knee

I’m still trying to get a visual on that one.

Search term: Are vampires and ghosts real

Why yes they are. Next question.

Search term: How to convert a human into a vampire

I’ve told everyone over and over and over that the answer is: I am not going to tell you. Stop asking.

Search term: Fuck school its summer

OK that goes without saying, but I didn’t say that.

Search term: The standardized Vampire.

OK folks you know how I feel about anything that is “standardized”. But really, a standardized Vampire? I don’t think so.

Search term: How to Avoid Vampire Hunters

Like the plague, but yes, I have written about that subject and will continue to write on that subject.

Search term: Blue Gothic Weirdness

I don’t know if I should take that as a compliment or not. I kind of like it.

Search term: What scares Vampires

A lot of stuff. Go away.

Search term: Brooding

Well, that pretty much sums it up for Vampires and teens.

Search term: Vampires looking for a snack

Yes, if you’re a Vampire I do have snack ideas right here on this blog. 

Search term: Vampire poems for kids

I thought that was sort of sweet. I think I will write some Vampire poems for kids in the future.

Search term: Story with a thrill

Yes, I DO have those kinds of stories on this blog (tell all your friends and send them right over.) Some of the best writing here could be considered in the grouping “stories with a thrill.”

Search terms: Do Vampires like cold or warm weather?

I generally like it in the 60’s but there is nothing like the feeling of a warm summer breeze on my bare skin while basking under the night sky. I like fog too. I really like fog.

Search term: How to act like a vampire in middle school

Is this from a book or a movie? I get this search term a lot. My advice is to never act like a Vampire unless you really are a Vampire.

Search term: Vampire history in California

This is dear and near to my heart. Yes, indeed, this is the blog for you. The founders of the Modern Vampire movement all moved here in the early 1850’s and we’re still in California. 

And the top search term to get to vampiremaman.com is:

How to respond to a love letter

Or anything else concerning love letters. I get more traffic to my love letter posts. If you look it up on Google you’ll be sent here. Don’t ever listen to those who say the love letter is dead. We all (no matter what you are) yearn for romance and expressing our love, even when it is brutally and gut renchingly honest.  To tell you the truth – I love writing the romantic posts more than anything else. Yes, I am a romantic, always, and forever.

Links to: How to Respond to a Love Letter and Writing a Love Letter

Now on to other business…

So traffic is up lately. Good. I have a good number of subscribers/followers/fans. Thank you all for looking for me, finding me and reading my stuff. My goal is to entertain, amuse, enlighten and inform.

This blog is pretty much a free-for-all with the excuse that I’m writing a parenting blog (never say mommy-blog unless you want me to hiss, show my fangs and puke.)

I feel my best work is done during the school year when I have more material to work with.

That said, I’m doing an extremely scientific poll on what YOU like to read. I know I can look at my stats but I’m not sure how scientific those are.

Pick the answer or answers you like best. Pick as many as you wish. Go ahead, it will be fun.

Of course no matter what comes up in search terms or polls – I will always write about parenting, gothic stories, the elders and of course the ghost.

May you always find what you’re searching for…

~ Juliette aka Vampire Maman

Sure this little guy is cute but I don't want him ANYWHERE near my knee or any other body part.

Sure this little guy is cute but I don’t want him ANYWHERE near my knee or any other body part.