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Ask a Vampire – Advice for Everyone
What do you think of teachers, coaches, or parents having favorites?
~ Left Out
Dear Left Out,
Obviously you aren’t “the favorite.”
This is a hard one. It hurts when someone else is obviously the favorite. Especially if they’re getting super special treatment.
When a teacher, coach, or parent picks a favorite it is doing a disservice to the favorite child/student and to everybody else.
Kids who are favorites can also use that to take advantage of the teacher, coach, and especially the parent.
A teacher or coach might adore their favorite, but the extra attention and bragging can often look bad.
But at the same time sometimes adults don’t realize that “favorites” are often resented and disliked by other kids, and by other adults because of the unfair advantages they have. If you’re a coach or teacher you have to at least make an attempt to treat all of your students equally, even if you don’t like them equally.
It is ok to have a favorite. We all have favorites, but don’t make it obvious and don’t forget the other kids.
And acknowledge all kids, even if you don’t like them.
My daughter told me about something that happened in one of her classrooms.
One of the boys called out a teacher. This was a high school Junior Advanced Placement, AP College level course (11th grade, 16-17 year olds).
The kid said to the teacher, “You don’t like me do you?”
The teacher said, “No, I don’t like you but you’re still getting all A’s on everything so what’s your problem.”
The kid then said, “No problem.”
If you aren’t the favorite try not to let it get to you. Be your own favorite. Do your best. And remember that some people are just assholes.
Unfortunately this happens in the workplace too. Bad bosses are especially prone to it. But just try to brush it off and do your best. Favorites rarely stay favorites forever.
What items should a grown woman never wear?
~ Fashion Franny
DO NOT WEAR THE FOLLOWING (the short list)
- Orange lipstick
- Over bleached hair
- Red pants
- Anything too tight or tacky tight
- Short plaid school girl skirts
- Bowl cuts
- Ugly shoes
- Totally monochromatic outfits unless it is dramatic and black and classy.
- Dark stockings with open toed shoes.
What do Vampires wear when they aren’t in formal wear?
I’m not into the Elvira Mistress of the Dark look, and I don’t know any Vampire guys who do the whole black suit and red lined opera cape thing.
Right now I’m wearing jeans, flip flops, and a black sweat shirt.
But Vampires tend to dress pretty creatively. Even in jeans we’re ultra hip, put together, and add those nice little touches that make us always classy and always fun.
We also wear clothing that fits right and is comfortable. You can’t get a good hold on a neck if your collar is itchy, or your pants are slightly too tight.
But Vampires do tend to wear black because it doesn’t show blood stains (heaven forbid) as bad as other colors. Hey, one has to be practical about these things.
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~ Juliette aka Vampire Maman