New Favorites From Teddy’s Bar

When we’re (Vampires) aren’t drinking blood we’re enjoying a nice bourbon or maybe a new Vodka.

My husband Teddy discovered a few great finds perfect for those cold winter nights.

Breaking & Entering Bourbon Whiskey. Smooth and warm. No nasty bite. A great find! Mmmmmmmm!

Angels Envy Bourbon Whiskey. Lovely and smooth with a sweet honey after taste (just a hint) like a lingering kiss.

Ciroc Coconut Vodka. The best flavored vodka we have tasted in a long time. Good alone or in cocktails.

Las Vegas Distillery Nevada Vodka. Yes, Las Vegas now has a distillery! A nice vodka with sort of a vanilla after taste. Strong with a different texture.

Taylor Fladgate 10 year old Tawny Port. Nice and warm. Perfect paired with a good book!

And remember don’t drink too much when parenting. And never drink and drive.

~ Juliette aka Vampire Maman

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Good design never goes out of style! Winter is almost here!

Winter is coming. In the 70’s (20th Century) I had a beautiful Chloe coat that looked like something from the 1890’s but a little different. I hate to admit it but the 1970’s was a time for beautiful coats. I wish I still had that wine colored Gucci coat with the fur collar.

The 1890’s brought a wonderful crop of beautiful winter dresses. Here is one of my favorites. The woman in the photo was a friend (not me). I’d still wear that. It wouldn’t take much to modernize it to 2013 winter fashion.

 

 

Stay Warm, Be Stylish,

Juliette aka Vampire Maman

Working out loss, love and life with your Vampire teen.

My 16 year old son is usually sunshine and smiles but yesterday, after being back at school for the first day after Thanksgiving break, he was quiet and almost sad. He said school was fine and it was good seeing his friends again, but he didn’t talk like he usually does.

I found this in the car scrawled in my son’s writing:

 

One day we’ll part,

In different worlds,

Not so different,

Not the same,

You’ll have change,

I will stay the same,

You’ll have wonder,

I will stay the same,

You’ll have wisdom,

I will see the wonders of the ages,

Except that I will miss you,

My heart a broken mess.

I knew where this was going. Friends mean everything to a teen. Their friends are the center of their universe. They think though their hearts. They bond friendships that will last forever – or so it seems.

After not seeing him for about an hour I went searching just to make sure he was ok.

I found Garrett, not on his computer, or iPhone but painting. He almost always writes poetry when something is on his mind. I find scraps of paper with free verse in the clothes dryer, in books, in the car and just about everywhere. He also paints to get out emotions he is trying to deal with.

I found him in front of a canvas he has painted over and over until the paint has become thick as a pancake. “I hate the fact that my friends are going to die before I do. They’re going to get old and I’m going to have to leave their lives because I won’t age like they do. It sucks mom. It isn’t fair.” He looked at me with sad eyes.

“Your friends are going through the same thing only sooner than you are.” I told him.

“How?”

“Some have already lost parents and grandparents. A few have lost friends and siblings. It leaves holes that are hard to imagine.”

“I’d die if anything happened to you or dad.” He looked at me with so much love and sadness that it broke my heart.

I put my hand on his shoulder. “You won’t die. You just remember and know the love is still there. You find strength. You keep the memory of the person who died and live to make them proud of you. The memories are always yours.”

“It’s just hard,” he said.

“I know, but you have a long way to go. I’ve loved and cherished my friends over the years. I feel honored to have known them. Their path isn’t the same as ours. Their lives are full and rich and wonderful. They have options we can’t even imagine.”

“Mom, by the time I’m 30 I’ll have to start backing away because I’m not going to age like they will.” The frustration in his voice was clear.

“It isn’t that simple Garrett. You’ll keep connections with some of your most trusted friends. They’ll understand. There are ways to deal with it and work around it.”

“Your friends, the ones you have when you were my age are all gone.”

“I still miss them sometimes baby. It isn’t always easy.” I told my son. It wasn’t easy but one grew to accept it. Not like it, but accept it.

“Sometimes I wish we were regular humans. You know, normal people,” said my son.

“We’re normal enough.” I had to smile. Normal for modern suburban Vampires.

“My friends are going to go away.”

“They’ll be in your heart forever.”

“It isn’t the same.” He gave me a very very very sad look that broke my heart.

“I know honey. I wish I had an answer for you but I don’t.” And I still don’t.

I could have told him to be proud to be a Vampire etc etc etc. He is and it is all he knows, but sometimes it is ok to let your teen brood and ponder life and love and death. They need to explore those feelings – and as a parent you can be open to their thoughts and ideas. Give them the support they need and a safe place to go if they have questions or just want to talk.

Just listen. Sometimes that is all they need.

I’m no tattoo artist but…this is pretty HOT

I’m no tattoo artist but this is pretty HOT and pretty SILLY.

Last week I had fun playing around with my kids and husband discussing tattoos and decided to do a little quick sketching. A lot of you saw my design (but some of you missed it so click HERE). I’m not tattoo artist but it was a fun game.

So anyway I wondered “What would my little sketch look like on someone.” I asked my husband to pose and did a little work on the computer. I told him looks like one of those guys off the cover of a romance novel now.

What do you think?

Life is too short for bad ink (so don’t hire me)…More on tattoos and Vampires..

After almost 300 posts in 8 months I think I have the right to get a little silly here. Back to parenting, poetry and the meaning of life (as only a Modern Vampire Mom can write it.)

Teens First Jobs and Work Ethics – Rules for All Teens (Vampires or Not)

My 16 year old Garrett just got his first job. It isn’t much of a job, just helping out at a Vintage Clothing/Tea shop, but it is a start. He helps clean up a few hours a week, helps with inventory, and helps customers when he can. He likes it because he gets to wear some of the cool old vests and hats.

Be it a funky shop, fast food, undertaker or other business, your teen needs to know how important it is to be a good worker.  Do a good job and you’ll get something of value aside from a paycheck – a good reference for the future. In this economy nobody can afford to be the one who gets fired or in the next round of lay offs.

I own a business (with a regular person). Yes, while some Vampires do have enormous trust funds etc etc etc, we do have regular jobs. At one time our little public relations business was much larger and I was more involved.

I had one employee, I’ll call Doris, who was a hard worker and generally did a good job. But she had a sense of entitlement and needed constant praise. She thought she needed “rewards”. She was given high scores for her work and the highest raises we could give. She was allowed to come and go as she pleased, come in when she wanted, talk hour + long walks, take lunch whenever she wanted, go to appointments, take vacation days when she wanted, use the internet for whatever (including online dating) but she still complained that she wasn’t appreciated. My other employees never complained. It wore my Vampire nerves and nearly drove my partner crazy. Eventually, when business slowed we had to let this employee go. We gave her 3 months pay and a bonus plus medical and she almost seemed happy to go. But I was always puzzled by her total blindness to all of her perks and benefits she got from us. My partner tried to figure out what would make Dois happy. Doris  made the other employees unhappy with her complaining and they couldn’t figure it out either. We were all just happy to have the business.

Our business is now smaller and we get more done and have more business, and work less. We’re a good team and happy.

Of course then there was my friend Kelly who had an employee who tried to pay his coworkers to do his work for him. He was fired. Well for that and for a lot of other things. Kelly and I also traded stories of people who were compulsive liars, would fake injuries on the job and were just lazy.

We also talked about how many really GREAT workers we’ve known over the years. More good than not. Sure we’ve had a few bad bosses but most had been OK.

We see all kinds in business, and the point of this is that we don’t want our kids to be like Doris or like the lazy player boy.

Teaching any kid, Vampire, Werewolf or Regular Human a work ethic is something every parent should put at the top of their list.

First Job Rules for All Teens:

  • Get to work on time! Don’t be late.
  • Don’t complain.
  • Don’t feel entitled – nobody owes you anything.
  • Don’t expect perks at your first job.
  • Be happy for any perks you get and say THANK YOU.
  • You’re on the job to work – not socialize.
  • Don’t take advantage of your boss – even if the other kids are doing it.
  • Don’t complain (I know, this is the second time I’ve listed that).
  • Rather than complain – make friendly constructive suggestions.
  • Sometime, just for a change, tell your boss “THANK YOU”.
  • Smile.
  • Follow instructions.
  • Be a team player.
  • Don’t brown nose.
  • Be happy you have a job. Appreciate what you DO have.
  • And if you don’t like then look for another job. You’ll find one. It isn’t easy, but you’ll find something better.
  • Most of all STAY IN SCHOOL.

Of course for Vampire and Werewolves…don’t snack on your coworkers at lunch breaks.  NO! Absolutely do not do it! Work and food don’t mix.

Good luck to all!

~ Juliette

Teens and Night Walks – and the most important time for parenting.

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Our teens like to go walking at night by the lake. I don’t worry about them getting into trouble for two reasons. The first reason is that they’re Vampire teens and more prepared than other kids. They have the ability to see in the dark and protect themselves.

The second and most important reason is because of their parents. Yes, give credit where it is due.

All Vampire parents know that the teen years are some of the most important parenting years. So many people think that parenting ends when their kids get older. They think teens don’t need them. WRONG.

Teens need their parents NOW more than even toddlers. Maybe even more.

The teenage brain is growing and changing at a startling rate. Their bodies are changing. Their social status is changing. They are getting their wings (or fangs in our case) and leaning to fly on their own. They are turning into adults.

They need YOU  – their parents. Don’t let them down.

Teens might push away, but don’t let that fool you. They need you now more than ever.

Be there for them. Talk to them. Love them. Encourage them. Help them become the teens and adults you’ll be proud of.

~ Juliette