I’m ending the year with resolutions, not just for my family but resolutions I hope all parents try to follow.
There are three words we should say to our kids every single day: I love you.
Three additional words we should always keep in mind: Love, Listen, Learn.
So with that note, here are my 2013 New Year’s Resolutions for Parents
Resolutions for ALL Parents:
- Listen to your children with an open mind and an open heart.
- Guide your children with wisdom and respect rather than force.
- Talk to your kids. I’ll say it again TALK to your kids. Not AT your kids but TO your kids. This means conversations – yes, actual conversations. Talk WITH them.
- Every single day ask your child/teen “How was your day?” and don’t take “OK”, “Fine” or any sort of grunt for an answer. Make your kid answer you in at least 25 words.
- Don’t use your child as a tool to hurt your former spouse or other family member. If you need to CONTROL your situation or hurt someone keep CHILDREN out of it. Get professional help for your control and anger issues. No child deserves to be used as a tool of hurt.
- Laugh with your child.
- Know who your child is hanging out with. Start this early so by the time your kid is a teen he’ll know who is a good friend and who is not.
- Teach your child that it is an honor to care about others.
- Teach your child to love animals. That doesn’t mean you have to have 347 cats, a rabbit, a pony and 34 dogs. It means that creatures (even those we eat) should be respected and cared for.
- Don’t dress your kid funny.
Resolutions for YOU:
- Get enough sleep.
- Don’t worry about those “super moms” who volunteer 60 hours every week at school, make organic gluten free cupcakes that would put Martha Stewart to shame, go to all the latest parenting classes, are into all the latest health and nutrition trends, have kids who are perfect etc etc etc. What to know a secret? They aren’t perfect. They might be control freaks, or bored or just plain annoying to the rest of us who ARE GOOD PARENTS. Every family is different and we all have different parenting styles. Don’t compare yourself to anybody else.
- Get your nails done (HA HA HA. Maybe twice a year for me if I’m lucky. I wish but it keeps slipping off of my radar).
Resolutions for Vampire Parents:
- Teach your children to accept themselves for what they are.
- Teach your children to be responsible for what they are.
- Teach them the history and lore.
- Teach them the difference between popular culture and reality.
- Tell them NOT to try to read their teacher’s mind. Come on now kids, school is for learning and learning to learn. Don’t use your Vampire abilities to get into the minds of others to get good grades. You need to get those grades on your own.